Depression is a common experience. It is often experienced in response to life events such as bereavement, divorce, loss of job. When we experience difficult life events it is easier to make sense of why we feel depressed, although this doesn’t make it easier to deal with. We can often become hard on ourselves for “not coping” or for “feeling sorry for myself.”This self criticism is very common in depression and can be an on-going internal dynamic which escapes our conscious awareness.

Sometimes we can feel depressed but not know why. We can live our life in a state of depression without ever really acknowledging or accepting it as depression. We often put it down to life circumstances, feeling that “we don’t deserve to be happy” or “that people don’t care about us” or that “this is as good as it gets”

Sometimes we may want to blame external influences for the way things have worked out for us.

This type of depression is generally experienced as disappointment or joylessness and the origin of this can often be traced back to childhood experiences. What is often present in this exploration is that there were some aspects of growing-up that had been difficult to come to terms with and what has remained unresolved shapes the way we experience things now.

When we explore our depression we often realise that there is much more to it than just a reaction to circumstances. With increased awareness we begin to realise that it is as much to do with how we process our experiences, as the experiences themselves.

With depression there is usually a loss of energy which makes perfect sense if we look at depression as a way of coping. Depression, in a way, is a method of keeping our feelings under control whether it is anger, grief, fear etc. So instead of feeling these more intense and difficult feelings we depress them and keep them away from our conscious awareness. We are then left experiencing the consequences of this internal struggle.

In effect, we are depressing our feelings and experience.

This offers a different, more understanding way of looking at depression. It also means that depression can be overcome because it is about how we process our deeper feelings. Once we can identify what we are depressing and find ways of coping with our deeper feelings, in a healthier way, then our depression can lift and we can feel more energy and vitality for life.

Clinical depression is a deeper, more entrenched state and sometimes pharmacological intervention is necessary for a person to feel more able to cope and face what is difficult. However the principle is the same so once a person can find new ways of dealing with their deeper emotions they can reduce their medication and start living in a more vibrant way.

CURRENT NEWS: I offer a 50% reduction for the initial consultation.

The initial consultation will last 50 minutes and will give you a chance to meet with me so you can get a sense of what psychotherapy with me will be like. The price for this is £35.

To make an appointment call on 07941 488851, or go to Initial Consultation for further information.


Psychotherapy can help us:

  • Take control of our life
  • REDUCE CONFLICT: internal
    and interpersonal
  • Overcome our struggles
  • Deal with DEPRESSION
  • Find meaning and purpose in life
  • Overcome difficult feelings: anxiety, ANGER, grief, fear
  • Deal with stress
  • Cope with psychiatric illness
  • Increase the quality of our relationships
  • Deal with panic attacks
  • Get out of our stuck experiences
  • Grow and develop
  • Learn new parenting skills
  • Overcome sexual difficulties: past or present
  • Deal with domestic abuse: past or present
  • Deal with self-limiting beliefs
  • Discover who we are
  • Stop smoking
  • Increase our self awareness
  • Learn how to succeed
  • Increase our self-esteem
  • Deal with obsessive behaviour
  • Change our negative thinking

Thank you for visiting my website

Hello and welcome to the Kingston Psychotherapy website. My name is Michael Hartley. I am a qualified psychotherapist and have been in private practice since 1995. I offer psychotherapy for individuals and couples.

What you can find on this website

This website has information about what psychotherapy is and how it may help you. You can also find information about the types of issues you can address in psychotherapy. There is also information about psychotherapy for couples which you may find helpful if you are considering couples therapy.

Further to this I have written a brief autobiography so you have some knowledge about me, what my experience and level of expertise is. I have included this because I believe choosing the right therapist is a crucial ingredient in the success of psychotherapy. I hope this information is of use to you.

If you want to discuss anything further or want to arrange an initial consultation then call me on 07941 488851 or EMAIL ME.

I hope you find what you are looking for.